Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying I do.

Culled from “The Nigeria Bride Academy.”

“A wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made, choose your prison mate carefully and sentence yourself wisely.”

Getting married is the biggest decisions you’ll ever in your life as it will change the course of your life forever.

Saying Yes to a LIFE PARTNER signifies the commitment and love you have for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

However, love is not enough. There are questions to ask before marriage that go beyond love like children, dealing with conflicts, beliefs, finance and extended family.

– Why do you want to get married? Why did you choose me? How do you think life will change if we got married? What are fives things we have in common? In what ways has our relationship changed you? What can I do that provides the greatest comfort and encouragement for you when you are hurt, fearful, anxious or worried.

What role does religion play in your life? How strong is your faith and belief in God?

– How compatible are we in our money styles and how will we handle finances once married? Will we be having separate bank accounts or joint account? Are you in debt?

Is there anything from your past that might affect our sex life? (Examples: sexual abuse, molestation, early interactions with pornography, toxic relationships, depression, medication side effects, etc.)

When one of us not in the mood for sex, what should be communicated so neither of us feels rejected? What are ways we can make sure our sexual intimacy stays a priority once we’re married? How would you communicate you aren’t satisfied sexually?

– What makes you angry? What do you do when you’re angry? How do we resolve differences in our marriage?

How many children do we want? What values do we want to instil in our children? How do we discipline our kids?

What happens if we can’t have children? What are your views on adoption? How do we discipline our children?

External Help
– Do we feel comfortable seeking professional counselling if needed? Why or not? Would you be willing to go to marriage counselling if we were having marital problems?

Extended Family
– are you prepared to put our relationship first? Do you have any issues with my family? What role do you see them playing in our lives? How do we handles in-laws so it does not affect our relationship? If your parents became ill, would take them in? If my parents became ill, would you mind taking them in?

 - What is your blood group, genotype and Rhesus factor? What is your family medical history? Diabetes, mental health, would be opposed to mental health treatment? If I had to change my diet because of medical concerns, would you be willing to change yours? Are you willing to exercise with me to improve health?

r – What are your career aspirations? What would you like to be doing five or ten years from now? Whose career takes priority in the family? What would happen if your or I lose our job? Would you mind moving if I had to relocate with my job?

Love Language
– How do you feel loved? There are five love of languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Knowing your love language can explain a lot about how you prefer to receive love. And knowing your partner’s love language can help better connect with them and understand them.

House Chores
– Who should do household chores? Would we hire help? How do we share chores in the house especially when the children arrive?

– What do we see in our future? Do you have any hesitations? Is there anything you’re afraid to talk to me about? Secrets can ruin a marriage. Honesty always the best policy.

– How can we make sure that divorce is NEVER an option for us? Are you truly prepared for “for better or for worse”? Do you want this to last forever?

If you are not able to find answer to these questions, sit down and plan things out with your partner.

Remember Getting Married should be for life. View your marriage as an UNBREAKABLE COVENANT and not a CONTRACT.

Published with permission from “The Nigeria Bride Academy”. Available on Amazon




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